How Setting Boundaries at Work Can Help You Unplug -The Muse

How Setting Boundaries at Work Can Help You Unplug -The MuseHow Setting Boundaries at Work Can Help You UnplugFor you, a standard workday just isnt enough. Your boss depends on you to be available day and night, and you often bring work home on the weekends. Your colleagues and clients rely on you so much that you plan to be on call during your upcoming vacation, despite your desperate need to unplug. And maybe youve been asked to fly across the country on a few days notice so many times that you dont even bother unpacking your suitcase anymora.While ansicht constant demands on your time and attention may feel like an indication of career success, they can also seriously tax your energy and focus. Agreeing to everything a boss, client, or co-worker asks you to do can quickly thrust you into the role of office pushover and leave you feeling like youve lost control of your own time and career goals.The key to staying sane while succeeding at work is to set firm, self-respecting boundar ies that help you make smart decisions about how you spend your time and energy. By taking the following steps to define your boundaries, assert them cooperatively, and stick to them, others will eventually do the same. Guard Your TimeIf youre feeling stretched thin, its likely because youve overcommitted to too many priorities, projects, and people. To regain focus and control, you need to examine both your behaviors and the habits of the people you work with. You need to set boundaries so you can unplug. First, look inward. Instead of letting stress or a desire for approval influence you to immediately agree to every request, pause before you respond. Take a moment to evaluate the individual demand and its potential effect on your schedule, well-being, and goals. For conditioned people-pleasers, this can be a challenge, but eventually, it will help you get comfortable with pushing back on demands that dont benefit you, so you can reserve your time for whats truly important. Then, focus on your co-workers habits. To curb the assumption that youll agree to anything youre asked to do, start responding to those requests with, Let me check my calendar and get back to you. This serves two purposes First, you can actually look at your upcoming schedule and prioritize whats already on your calendar. Second, it sets the expectation with your colleagues that youre not going to jump on every request right away- or at all. Defining boundaries is also essential to making space for your personal goals. For example, if youre training for a half marathon and have a long run scheduled for 6 PM, tell your client that a 530 PM meeting doesnt work for your schedule and offer to send some availability for later in the week. By closely guarding your time, youll be able to elevate your own priorities, both at work and in your personal life. Unplug to ReenergizeAchieving work-life balance in todays always-on work culture can seem impossible. Checking emaille is often the first thin g we do in the morning, and our constant accessibility doesnt end until we send just one last email before bed. But never disconnecting from your devices or work is a surefire path to burnout.To set healthy boundaries, you have to closely examine your technology and work communication habits and behaviors. Ask yourself Whats driving you to stay connected? Are you afraid of dropping the ball and letting your team down? Are you trying to prove to yourself (and everyone else) that youre uber productive? Once you understand those underlying motivations, you can determine appropriate tech-related boundaries. For example, maybe you can let your colleagues know exactly when they can- and cannot- expect to reach you during the evenings (e.g., Ill be logged on at home until 7 PM, but then Ill be out of pocket). Or maybe, you commit to checking email once only each evening and weekend day. By appropriately limiting your availability, you can continue to support your co-workers needs, while al so maintaining a healthy work-life balance. Look for Win-Win SituationsNo one likes to hear no- especially if theyre used to hearing yes. If youre worried about how your boundary-setting will go over with your team, re-position your refusal as an opportunity to find a solution that will honor both your time and the companys needs. Simply look for ways to compromise. For example, if your boss asks you to work over the weekend, let him or her know that you have prior commitments over those days, but suggest setting aside some time to review the project Monday morning. That will help him or her feel comfortable with the end deliverable and shows that youre a team player- while still preserving your personal time. Work According to Process, Systems, and ContractsIf your colleagues and clients have a hard time respecting your newly established boundaries, dont be afraid to fall back on external policies and procedures for help. With clients, for instance, you can often leverage your exis ting contract. For example, if the scope of a project is growing out of control, you could say something like, Its no problem for me to pull together a new 90-day plan to accommodate these changes. Ill add that into the contract. The additional charge will be $500.Or, if youre constantly being asked to work insane hours or perform tasks that are far above your pay grade, ask for a review of your job duties and compensation. Come to the table with evidence of the extra responsibilities youve assumed, along with your track record of successes. With that documentation on your side, youll have a much better chance of establishing some more realistic expectations for your role- or majorly boosting your salary and value. Setting self-respecting boundaries will help you achieve a more balanced work and personal life, which will boost your emotional wellness across the board and serve you well in the long run. Photo of fence courtesy of Shutterstock.